Soul Speak - Taking the Day from Better, Right and Wrong, to Healthy
Did you hear about the rose that grew
from a crack in the concrete?
Proving nature's law is wrong it
learned to walk with out having feet.
Funny it seems, but by keeping its dreams,
it learned to breathe fresh air.
Long live the rose that grew from concrete
when no one else ever cared.
~“The Rose That Grew from Concrete” - Tupac Amaru Shakur
When I was a child, my top three dreams were to be Indiana Jones, a pirate, or a pro wrestler. While those rotated, a close second that never changed was a drive to help others to make the world better.
Better can be funny, can’t it? A word that can either unite or alienate, just like the concepts of right and wrong, opinions are sure to vary. Best watch your step, kid!
After I graduated from college, I was told that instead of thinking in terms of what’s better, right or wrong, to pause and reflect on:
It’s easy to get caught up in the emotional aspects of better, right and wrong. But if we can pause long enough to ask ourselves ‘What’s healthier?’, a new paradigm in viewing conflict opens up.
By allowing ourselves the space to be released from the limitations of better, right and wrong, and focusing the light of our awareness on what’s healthier, our movements through life can become just a bit more deliberate, fuller and intentional.
I know it’s not easy to makes shifts of change when emotions run high, especially in times like these. From my own experience with personal conflict, better, right and wrong, often don’t make the path to resolution smoother. If anything, it’s easy to get heated, especially in this day and age. But in those moments, I try to recall the Buddhist teaching that anger is akin to holding a burning coal with the intent of throwing it at another.
You only burn yourself.
If we continue on the path of better, right and wrong, we hurt ourselves, with untended wounds rippling out into the world and perpetuating the cycle of pain that continues to flare up. And I don’t think that’s healthy. But it’s a baseline to effect change.
In the shared journey that is the human story that we live together, that fullness of being healthy, and in turn loving, is the seed that has the unending potential to grow.
And just like the sprout pushes past the seed, the earth, and gravity, so too can we grow towards the Light, together.